The mistake we atimes make is to think our cross is (or would be) similar to another persons… We live in oblivion! But get fustrated when we realise we can’t get through our huddles the same way the next person did. It rather requires that we patiently cultivate our own unique strategy else we fail woefully. Yes! Those that care will encourage or advice but Will and Choice ultimately resides with us. This is life, let it be between you and God because it would eventually end between you and God.